The goal is to move more network state accessors to netmon.Monitor
where they can be cheaper/cached. But first (this change and others)
we need to make sure the one netmon.Monitor is plumbed everywhere.
Some notable bits:
* tsdial.NewDialer is added, taking a now-required netmon
* because a tsdial.Dialer always has a netmon, anything taking both
a Dialer and a NetMon is now redundant; take only the Dialer and
get the NetMon from that if/when needed.
* netmon.NewStatic is added, primarily for tests
Updates tailscale/corp#10910
Updates tailscale/corp#18960
Updates #7967
Updates #3299
Change-Id: I877f9cb87618c4eb037cee098241d18da9c01691
Signed-off-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@tailscale.com>